But, Why Though?

Let me tell you guys what happened to me the other day.  I stopped by the gas station to get a snack or two, okay more than that. But that’s beside the point.  Stay focused! Lol So I was in the isle deciding what I wanted to get and this woman kept staring at me.  I looked up and smiled at her but no smile back.  I went back to what I was doing and looked up again.  This lady was still staring at me.  Ma’am did I take something of yours? Do I have your clothes on? What? Finally she came down the isle I was on. In my mind I was thinking “here we go.” She surprised me though.  In a very mean and gruff voice,  she said “I like your hair.” I almost burst out laughing because it seemed like it hurt her to say that.  I politely said thank you and walked to the register.  I was to tickled inside. My mind began to wonder and this is the reason for this post. 

Why is it so hard for some women to empower each other or give a simple compliment? I mean I have no problem in given my fellow women props and kudos.  When they are looking hot in that dress,  their hair is laid,  or those brows on “fleek” (I’m so silly) I will let them know.  I have no problem at all.  Instead of complimenting on a job well done,  I have heard women use that “but” clause.  You know what the but clause is.  She’s cute and all but she could have worn a different pair of shoes with that dress.  Her hair is pretty but I don’t like that color.  I mean really? Why can’t we give a compliment and let it go? She may need to hear a little affirmation.  You don’t know what she is going through.  Your comment could have made her day.  I think some women think by giving another woman a compliment it some how dims their own shine? It still baffles me everytime I see it.  I am quick to see a girl on social media and say she’s cute but the peanut gallery (other women) will suck their teeth and say she alright lmao!

Tell me what you think.  Is this you? Are you the compliment hoarder? What are your reasons why? Have you seen your friends do this? Let me know.  I am very curious. 

Until next time my loves! Smooches!!


Big Hair Don’t Care!!


Can you guys see how happy I am with this hair? I am giving you all of me with this hair! Lol.  I just love it.  If you follow me on instagram then you know that this style is a set of crochet braids that I recently installed.  As I stated in a previous post,  crochet braids are my protective style of choice.  I have been doing styles like this on my hair for almost a year now.  I can definitely see the growth  and the increase of health in my hair.  I have learned that low manipulation styles are what my hair thrives on.  I have been trying to grow out my hair from a short cut I had last year.  I loved my cut and I rocked it but it was time for a change.  Anyway,  I just wanted to pop in and show you what is going on with my hair right now.  I am Chaka Khan… I am Jill Scott… I am beautifully me! Here is one more shot for the road… Smooches!!