Well I have been told on more that one occasion that my views on relationships for very “idealistic”. Mostly by ex-boyfriends and other people whose opinions don’t matter. I always thought I had a healthy view on relationships and their inner workings but as I grow older and my success rate continues to decline, I may need to rethink what I think I know LOL. Well lets get right into it. I guess I am old fashioned because I thought that relationships included trust and honesty. I thought cheating was uncommon and I thought ignorance was bliss! But what the heck do I know? LOL In this day and age, trust seems to be extinct and honesty is very uncommon.
I sat down and spoke to one of my friends about relationships and I told them that I wanted a man that wanted only me and a person that I could trust. She told me that men like that don’t exist. She said that you are going to have to find a man that will take care of his household because all men are going to cheat. You just have to decide if you are willing to put up with it. Wait a minute and stop the presses!!! I am sorry but I don’t believe that. I feel that a relationship should be based on trust. That is the foundation. If you don’t have trust then you don’t have anything. Your foundation is compromised. It’s like you are building a house on sinking sand. I will be damned if I run myself crazy trying to figure out what he is doing and who he is doing it with. That is not living in my opinion. But then again, what do I know? I have been in relationships where trust was broken and I was very unhappy. The person lied about the smallest things. I may not have ever caught them cheating but if you can get caught in a lie about something simple then you can lie about anything? Right?
Doesn’t trust hold a large role in relationships or am I crazy? I try my best to be honest and I try my best to be as transparent as I can be with my significant other. I expect the same. It’s a give and take. I see so many people in relationships that don’t have trust. I mean its so crazy! What is the point of it all? What is the point of being in a relationship with a person that you have to constantly question? There are too many other things in life to worry about then what the next man is doing. I am sorry. I know I know, I sound like I come fresh out of the old age. But I think I am going to keep my idealistic view on relationships. I am taking a stand. If you don’t stand for something, you will fall for anything. Trust and believe, that I am not trying to fall ever again.
What is your idea of how a relationship should work? Am I being unreasonable. Are my standards to high? Let me know what you think…
Smooches! Until next time loves!