Soulmates? Real or Nah?

I was having a conversation with my coworkers the other day and I asked them if they believed in soul mates. At first there was a resounding no from everyone. Then I asked them well what if your soul mate is not a person of the romantic kind but on a friendship level. Most of them assumed that when I said soul mate, I meant husband, boyfriend, girlfriend, etc. When I posed the question in a different way, the answers changed. Most of them felt that they believed in soul mates if the term didn’t automatically mean a romantic partner. I wonder why is that? One person told me that they consider a soul mate as someone that they can completely trust. They don’t feel that you can find that in a romantic relationship but rather a friendly one. That’s quite cynical isn’t it? Or rather an opinion based on past experiences? hummmm… The definition of soul mate is a person ideally suited to another as a close friend or a romantic partner. So a soul mate can be a best friend. Another definition states that a soul mate is a friend who completely understands you, who has the same believes and opinions as another person. I don’t know if I agree with that one. I feel that a soul mate is a person that understand but doesn’t necessarily have to agree with everything you say or do. I think a soul mate is a person that “completes” you. Their strengths may be your weaknesses and vise versa. They are able to draw things out of you that you didn’t know you had. That is what I feel a soul mate is. I also feel that a soul mate may be in your life for only a period of time, not necessarily someone you have to grow old with. I have met people along the way that I needed at that particular time but as I grew, they didn’t go with me. They were what I needed when I needed. With that being said, I wonder can a person have more than one soul mate? As you grow, you develop different opinions, values, and believes. If a person is your soul mate, they would have to adapt to those changes right? Or does that mean that soul mates can be interchangeable like pieces of clothing? Elizabeth Gilbert of Eat, Pray, Love says that “people think a soul mate is our perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding your back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life.” A soul mate is in your life for a purpose and they may be in your life for a season or for a lifetime. Have you found your soul mate?


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