The Great Debate (Straight vs Curly)

Hey guys! I am back for another little discussion with you. I am really interested in your opinion. In the meantime, here is mine.

There has been a great debate in the natural hair community regarding straight hair versus curly hair. A lot of people feel that natural hair means wearing your hair in its natural state without changing the curl pattern. Other people feel that natural hair only means hair that is free from harsh chemicals i.e. relaxers, texturizers, and color treatments. I personally feel that natural hair is what you were born with, hair that has a curl pattern or will revert back to that curl pattern when it is washed. It really doesn’t matter if you flat iron your hair, blow out your hair, or wear your hair in its coily or curly texture. It’s all natural to me.  The only time it becomes unnatural is when you use something in your hair that can change or remove the curl pattern. Some of the hard core natural enthusiasts feel that coloring the hair compromising the natural state. I don’t agree. You can color your hair and still keep the natural texture of it. That is the great thing about natural hair. It is so versatile. You can wear it straight and back to curly (if there is no heat damage). If someone wants to wear their natural hair straight then that is their prerogative. I mean come on now. They already went against societies standards and stopped using harsh chemicals on their hair. Why do they have to get flack from fellow naturals? Its a preference. Its also preference if you want to wear you hair relaxed or natural. Why the debate? Why the issue? We have a lot more in life to discuss then what is natural hair and what is not. Don’t get me wrong, when I first started researching natural hair, all I saw were awesome kinks and curls. I assumed that natural hair meant curly texture. But once I began to research more, I knew more. I began to realize that natural hair is so diverse. I change my hair constantly. Sometimes I wear it kinky, sometimes I wear it blown out, and sometimes I wear it braided under a wig for a protective style. I do what I want with it without using chemicals. So regardless of how I change my hair, I am still natural. I don’t plan on changing that aspect of my hair, ever.   Simply put, natural hair is hair that is free of texture changing chemicals. At least that is my definition. Can we all just get along? LOL

Lent: 40 days of Renewel?

Hey guys,

What did you give up for Lent? Are you on track or have you given up? After much deliberation, okay not the much, I decided to give up sweet treats! I absolutely love cake, cookies, and candy!!. I know this will be a challenge for me but I am really trying! So far so good. Well I take that back, I accidentally tasted a piece of my aunt’s pound cake but let’s not count that! LOL. I know most people participate in the sacrifice of Lent because of religious believes. Although I am Christian, I am doing it mainly push myself. To see how far I can go. It’s like a personal challenge. Is that bad? Am I doing it for totally the wrong reasons? I mean the sweets are not good for me anyway, so why not use this as an opportunity to give it up. I hope I can actually give it up for good but….we shall see about that. We have to crawl before we walk right? I will keep you posted on how things are going with me. I had that one little slip up but nothing major. Why is it that when you are trying to do something, everything tempts you? I want some girl scout cookies so bad and the little girls in front of the stores are so cute. No eye contact!! It’s almost like they put you in a trance or something and make you buy! LOL Is that just me? Okay it’s probably just me. Anyway. Until next time…

Smooches!!

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Has Society Defined What Our Happiness Looks Like?

I have a healthy son, a full social life, and I am very active in my church. I am also 36 years old, single, and never married. So why do people make me feel that I have failed in some way? Why can’t I just enjoy life being a single and active mom? I feel it’s because society has caused us to believe that ours lives are supposed to have a so-called “happy ending”. But what is a happy ending supposed to look like? Married? In a relationship? Rich? Big house on a hill? It’s funny that most of the movies out there end with the guy getting the girl, or the girl finding her prince charming. What if that never happens for me? Will my life be all for nothing? I think not. I have come to the realization that happiness comes from within. When you are happy with yourself, you in turn live a happy life. You may not be what society feels that you should be, but who cares? I may not end up getting married but I am successful just the same. I have been the best mom I can be for my son and I have provided for him the best way I know how. I am a great friend and my circle is small. I like it like that. I have great community involvement and I give best whenever I can. Who says my life isn’t fulfilled? I may not ever have a life long partner or maybe I will. I may not ever have the big wedding or maybe I will. I may not even have the big house, but I have love abundantly from my family and my friends. What more could a person ask for? I see people out here married and miserable. In a relationship with a person that doesn’t complete them. What king of life is that? All become someone says you should get married or you should be in a relationship? Nah I am good. Don’t get me wrong, I am all for two people who love each other being in a successful relationship. What I do not condone is for someone to be in a relationship or a situation just because they feel they need to. Do what makes you happy, not what others feel should make you happy. Break the mold and dance at the beat of your own drum. If you are happy with where you are now in life then enjoy that. If you are not, then do something about it but whatever you do, do it for you. Society can’t tell you where you should be or where you should go. I believe we all have a destiny and no one path is the same. That’s all I have to say about that!

Smooches!!

All Action

Hey guys! So lately I have been in a writing mood. I have tried to get back into the swing of things with my poetry and written thoughts. I recently wrote a little something late one night and I decided to share. Its not long or anything, just a snippet of what I was thinking at the time. I hope you enjoy…

All Action

I no longer rendezvous with words
I am the mistress to action
The life long partner to the truth
Your words no longer pull at my strings
I only move to the beat of actuality
No longer living by what could have been
But enjoying life in what actually is
You no longer hold me captive with what you say
I am set free by what you do
Your words no longer taste of the sweet nectar my heart longs for
They have grown bitter and cold
I break free daily, realizing the truth is what I see
The truth is what I seek